From BFF to WTF: Friendship Hurts! Part 1

Hey fam!

Hopefully, the title of this post caught your attention. My blogs for the next few days will dive into different forms of hurt. Yesterday I tackled "church hurt" and today I am tackling hurt in our friendships. Thus explaining my title, "From BFF to WTF" or "From Best Friends Forever to Where's The Friendship?". I think that it is easy to cop out of friendships with easy explanations such as: "Friends come and go." And while this statement is true, it is critical that we redefine what friendship looks like.We must challenge ourselves to have a clear understanding of what we are getting into when we chose to be/have friends. As a young person, I have had my share of "BFF to WTF" moments and have found the following to be true:

The Problems:

1.Friendships usually fail because of some form of hurt. Hurt looks differently for everyone and comes is a variety of forms.

2. Often times we do not allow ourselves to see past the hurt in our friendships. I am not suggesting that one stay in friendship with someone who consistently hurts them. However, I am suggesting that we strive to see our friends as Jesus does and that we learn to forgive in our friendships. Don't forget all of the times a friend has helped bring healing, joy and love to your because of the one time they hurt you.

3. We are selfish. We are often in friendships for our own interest, which is wrong from the start(Philippians 2:3). The second we feel pain or hurt we flee, not even taking the opportunity to fully analyze the situation.

The Solution: CHRIST. POINT BLANK. PERIOD.

I know you expected another list, but it is not necessary. Christ sets an example of what a friend should be. Furthermore, He is the best friend we will ever have and he extends his friendship to us each and every day. . Consider how much we hurt Christ with our sins and even mistrust. Consider how He continues to love is despite anything we have done or will do.We must look to Him in all things, especially our friendships

My upcoming blog(s) will focus on some specific friendship hurts and on ways to improve and strengthen our friendships as a whole. Until then, I encourage you to take a look at the friendships you have. Ask yourself, "What kind of friend am I really?"

Peace & Love,

Brittany

***Comments and feedback appreciated. Are there any specific friendship topics you would like to see on the blog?***